Why Leaving the Most Toxic Workplace is Very Difficult

Why Leaving the Most Toxic Workplace is Very DifficultWhy Leaving the Most Toxic Workplace is Very DifficultWhether Im working with a client who is highly dissatisfied at their current role, actively in process of leaving a toxic workplace on their own terms, or was recently laid off, Ive often found it fitting to compare the transition theyre experiencing in a bad work environment to that of a marriage gone bad.Prior to writing books on contemporary career development and running an online career coaching consulting business, I was working in the corporate world as a marriage and family therapist. I quickly observed the interesting parallelisms of the person(s) described above sharing the same thoughts, feelings, and behaviors with someone who is in the process of leaving an unhealthy marriage or grieving after the divorce.Having been married or not, all of us on some level have had experiences of unterstellung stages with a close relationship throughout ur lives. So, it is a prove n analogy many people can relate to and identify with. Ive often found it resonates as a very powerful analogy which really helps my clients to better process and work through the difficult transition of leaving a company theyve dedicated 5, 10, 20, 30, sometimes 40 years of their lives atAll this being saidIf you have found that actually leaving a bad work environment or toxic company once and for all, has proven to be extremely difficult or seemingly impossible, please dont be hard on yourself.Assuming a large magnitude and high level of attachment (addiction) you have to this relationship with your company, you cant break it on your own. After all, its far too easy for most of us to have become highly attached to our role in a toxic workplace and company after so many years. For those of us who are highly passionate, caring, and truly gave the best we could to our position, our clients/customers, and our company, how could we not have become highly attached over the many years, s ometimes decades of our being committed to this relationship?First things firstYou will need the support of others, ideally people who have triumphed in this area themselves or industry experts who help people successfully make a transition out of their toxic workplace. Bonus points if you find someone who fits both criterions.If you are reading this and can identify having similar feelings surrounding your current toxic workplace, the image below illustrates the stages of making a change. After looking at the image with the stages of change, it would behoove you to honestly ask yourself which stage you currently are in this process.Wherever you are, thats where youre supposed to be, so dont judge it. Just start by accepting where you are. People in the pre-contemplative stage are often either unaware of their need to change, or there is some level of awareness, but they have little to no desire or serious interest to change anytime in the near future.Chances are likely that if youv e chosen to take the time to read this article, youre either in the contemplation, preparation, or action stage of making a change. Below Ive highlighted common scenarios.I often hear from people in these three stages1. Scenario of someone in the contemplative stageYou have hit the ceiling at your current toxic company, and are ready for the next challenge or growth opportunity.Youve been told (either directly, or indirectly), that there is no more opportunity for you to advance in your current role, and any further requests youve made for advancement opportunities or for a raise in salary congruent with your current tenure have been brushed aside or have fallen on deaf ears.You no longer feel like youre appreciated for the quality of work you do or valued by your organization.You are ready for a change, one that involves you being challenged, continuing to grow, and appreciated for your contribution.2. Scenario of someone in the preparation stageYour current bad work environment is extremely draining, and you are likely working well over 50 hours a week. The position or company may have been good at one point, but its been a very negative situation for quite some time now.You may even know on some level, either by instinct or actually have been informed, that your current role within the company is no longer secure on some level.You have an acute awareness that your current job is sucking your soul dry, and you are feeling stuck or trapped. You have likely even started to discuss this issue with a few close family members, friends, or a trusted advisor.Whatever the reason(s) leading up to this, youre ready to leaveand may have even begun occasionally looking into other job opportunities and dabbling with applying to a few.At this point, you know you want to change, but you likely dont have a clear strategy on how to effectively land your next role, or you may have loosely prepared a strategy, but dont have the necessary time or energy to execute it while muck smuschenstill working at your current job.You may also be experiencing a high level of fear about your company somehow finding out about you looking into new opportunities and firing you.3. Scenario of someone in the action stageThis may still include some aspects of contemplative and preparation stages.You have completely made up your mind that you are in a toxic workplace. You are one foot out the door at your current job.You are very actively pursuing new opportunities, but feel like you keep attracting toxic companies and dont really feel great about any of them if youre being honest with yourself. Similar to dating gone bad, you arent even sure if any good companies exist anymore.You may have been able to get to the interview process with several companies you felt pretty good about, and sometimes even make it to the 2nd or 3rd round of interviews. However, despite getting positive feedback and coming really close, youre still left with no job offer.If these stages and scenario s sound an awful lot like yours, the first step is to start by accepting where you are, right now. The truth is, before we can really begin to shift and make a major change out of a toxic workplace, we have to first be willing to face the issue at hand and be honest with both ourselves and other people.In my experienceMy experience working for years with many people in these toxic workplace scenarios is that the next step you need to take is to reach out for the appropriate and consistent support, resources, and insight you will need to overcome and create a lasting, positive change in this area.

How to Prepare for Job Interview and get your Dreamjob

How to Prepare for Job Interview and get your DreamjobHow to Prepare for Job Interview and get your DreamjobWe talked about How to Dress for a Job Interview recently. Job interview is unfortunately not only about looking good. It is mostly about making a good impression. If you are not sure how to accomplish this, you should continue readingInformations from your resumeBe sure you can talk about all the informations in your resume such as previous jobs, education and even hobbies. HR manager have read it, but it is your chance to talk more about it.Informations about companyMake some research on a company you would like to work for. Check out companys web or blog. Learn about its history, directors and even competition. HR manager should be impressed by your knowledge. It shows him, that you truly are interested in this job.Know your positionIf you were sending tons of emails in order to find a job, you may be a little lost in this mess. Read the job description and be prepared at th e interview. If the job description is not described properly, dont be shy and ask about it.Be cool about itTry not to be in stress. Take it as a business meeting, where you want to make the best impression. Think about the questions and take your time to answer. Try to make an eye contact and act confidently.D-dayBe prepared for a traffic jam or other disasters. It is always better to come early than late. Look for the address in a map, so you dont get lost and late. If you go by car, check for parking possibilities around the company.Dont chew a gum during the interview. It is considered rude. If you are a smoker, try not to smoke before the interview. Cigarette smoke doesnt make the best first impression.Do you like this story? Share it with your friends.Share Your Feedback or Ideas in the Comments

Why you should always ask the hiring manager this one question

Why you should always ask the hiring manager this one questionWhy you should always ask the hiring manager this one questionOf the many questions candidates can ask potential employers, What would a typical day look like? ranks among the most revealing. Heres why all job seekers should pose it during interviews.It provides a clearer pictureAsking the hiring manager the question, What does a typical day look like?helps you understand the daily expectations and routine for the role, says job search strategist Sarah Johnston, founder of theBriefcase Coach.It helps you assess the quality and quantity of the workload.Similarly, hiring managers often talk in generalities. For example, communicating directly with clients might actually translate into answering a constantly ringing phone, not working one-on-one to develop new marketing strategies like you hoped. Job satisfaction rests heavily on the actual tasks performed day in and day out, soform a realistic idea from the start of what the standort involves.Johnston recounts an instance when such knowledge would have been useful. I recently was talking to a job seeker who changed jobs. She was originally in a role that was very administrative. She wanted more interaction with people and hoped to move into a sales role. She interviewed for a sales position and got the job. Unfortunately, she did not have a good understanding of what the job entailed before she accepted it.Even though the title was sales coordinator, the position was totenstill very administrative.It can uncover red flagsGot an interviewer whose response leaves you confused?Consider the inability to provide a sufficient answer apotential red flag.While some roles dont easily lend themselves to a consistent set of tasks, too much uncertainty often proves frustrating for a new hire and may signal that management hasnt really thought enough about expectations for this position.It offers a glimpse of company cultureAs the interviewer talks about an average day, listen for clues about thegeneral work environment. Does the team seem to spend a great deal of time in meetings? Are breaks and lunch mentioned? Which people seem to come up most often as ones with whom youll interact (leaders, vendors, remote workers, staff from other departments, etc.)? Answers to these types of questions willhelp you develop a vibe about work style, relationships, and work-life balance.Its a good springboard to further conversationFinally, remember that hiring managers like thoughtful inquisitiveness.Asking questions during the interviewconveys interest in the companyand a desire to ensure the match is a good one for both sides. While What would a typical day look like? is not the most original question, its a solid voreingestellt that demonstrates eagerness to learn more. The interviewers answer likely will spark other potential questions, leading to a genuine back-and-forth that makes a memorable impressionThis article was originally published on FlexJob s.